There are several questions you should ask before starting to devote to the recipes of a personal development system. The most important question is: Where does it lead you?

The road starts with a first step, but can you be sure you are making it with the right foot?

The sense of purpose

If you see clearly the destination target, you will know if this is the direction you want to follow. The method is only the way that leads you to the goal. It is not the goal. And you are after the goal. You should remember this before you start defending it if someone disagrees on its principles.

Here is how to recognize the goal of the method you are presented to:

1. The easy way. Look for a clear definition of the goal. If you can’t find it in the provided literature, ask for it.
2. The hard way. If you still don’t have the answer, try to define it yourself after diving a little into the literature or teachings. When you feel like knowing enough of the basics of the method, take your time and define the goal.

Lessons learned or wasted time?

Remember, the more clear you see where it leads you, the more safe you are on the way to change yourself, your life. This is not a game, (at least not a common one), so consider this first step as the most important investment you are making in your transformational effort. It’s not the biggest, but it’s the most important.

There is no waste of time in general, because you are supposed to learn even from your mistakes. But how much time can you afford to waste?

I’ve seen many people not considering this very first step. I have also made this mistake, not once, until I realised how important this is. Can you admit that this happened to you too? I would like to hear your conclusions on this.

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